Smart Products That’ll Reenergize Your Sex Life

Published on: Feb 12, 2021fb-roundtwitter-roundemail-round
products to better your sex lifeLindsay Lange

Let’s talk about the birds and the bees. Because taking care of your sexual health is very important. How to protect yourself and pleasure yourself are topics that can feel private. We get it. 

But it’s time to start the conversation about maintaining a healthy sex life. Because you should be able to explore your sexuality without shame. So we rounded up products to help you take control. And to help you explore.

g-spot flexible vibrator made from soft and durable silicone
A vibrator that’s waterproof and made for exploration…

The squishy, flatter head of the vibe is designed for the vulva or clitoris. But the arc of the handle is designed to help you discover what feels right during penetration (mind you, the G-spot debate is still pretty heated). Every body is different and this vibe let's you play around with what feels best. Because of the slight curve, it won’t cause you to twist your wrist in uncomfortable positions. Reviewers rave about the different speed and pattern settings, its flexibility, and the softness of the durable silicone. It can be used with a partner, but is also the perfect toy for some alone-time fun. ($115, Dame)

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water-based lube
A water-based lube that won’t irritate or call for a ton of cleanup…

It’s made with aloe leaf juice, vanilla, and lemon. And doesn't use irritating synthetics or fragrances. Aka no more sticky hands or sheets. Plus, it’s hypoallergenic and gynecologist-approved. Because the last thing you want is sudden burning and itching when you’re just trying to dive into the act. ($14, Lola)

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silicone vibrator that focuses on clitoral stimulation via sonic pulses
A vibrator that uses sonic waves to focus on the clitoris…

Sonic waves and cruise control. So it doesn’t drop in intensity as you go. To break it down, it saves 20% of its power when you're holding it lightly against your body, but then uses that stored power when you push harder. So the motor stays just as powerful even under pressure. For deeper sensations that stimulate the entire clitoris, the silicone is engineered to absorb and respond to pulses, sending them back into the body. Because just touching the little external nub is not actually all there is to the clit. Yep, there’s more below the surface that can provide even more pleasure. Surprise, surprise. ($111, Lelo)

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sanitizer spray for sex toys
A vibrator sanitizing spray to keep your toys clean…

If you’re putting something down there, you should definitely make sure it’s clean. It’s made from 70% alcohol to kill germs, and can be used on your hands, too. ($10, Maude)

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massage oil
A massage oil to use with a partner during foreplay…

Because jumping right into the act is not nearly as much fun as setting the scene. It can also be added to a bath if that’s more your style. But either way, its blend of jojoba, coconut, argan, and castor oil will keep skin feeling smooth and supple. ($35, Maude)

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sex journal for couples to help them communicate
A sex journal to help you and your partner talk about a topic that may feel a bit taboo…

Making sure you’re both having the best sexual experience possible is important. But sometimes actually sharing intimate details about what you like and don’t like is hard. Have no fear. This journal is meant for reflection. It’s got tips on how to communicate in the bedroom, along with intention-setting exercises to help the two of you share more. Open, honest communication is the first step to better sex. So write in it together to get the convo started. ($26, Uncommon Goods)

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compressive buffer to be worn externally to help relieve pelvic pressure during penetration
A compressive buffer that can help relieve some pain that comes with penetration…

The little rings can be worn stacked together or individually, depending on what feels comfortable to you. They’re used externally, and are ideal for those that experience endometriosis, are postpartum or post-operation, or just experience some pain from deeper penetration. But don’t worry, it won’t affect sensation and it’s super stretchy. So when your partner puts one of the rings on, there won’t be any uncomfortable squeezing or tightness. ($65, Urban Outfitters)

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truth or dare game to play with a partner
A truth or dare game to play with your partner…

Play it a bit safer with a truth card, or spice things up with a dare. It’s time to pour a glass of wine. Things are about to heat up. ($14, Urban Outfitters)

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non-toxic and ethically made vegan condoms
A condom pack that’s free of chemicals, lightly lubricated, and thoroughly tested…

We’re talking extra strength without a loss of sensation. Because you should always be protected when the time comes. And there’s no reason to solely rely on a partner to bring the right protection. Some fun facts — Glyde the world's first certified non-toxic, ethical, and fair-trade condom maker. They use sustainable ingredients and cruelty-free practices. Since they’ve started, Glyde has also donated millions of condoms worldwide. ($34.99, Glyde)

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hot and cold packs that can be slipped into underwear to provide muscle relief or discomfort post sex
A hot and cold pack that can relieve vulva pain, cyst pain, or inflammation…

If you’re feeling particularly sore after sex, you can chill the pad to bring relief to muscles. If you’re got a cyst that feels tender (usually caused from clogged glands), you can warm the pack. The actual pack can slip into underwear, so it’ll be discreet. Plus, they can be washed and reused as many times as you need. ($34, Private Packs)

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birth control you can receive via online consultations with medical professionals
A birth control prescription that won’t call for an in-person visit…

Access to birth control shouldn’t be so difficult. And Hers makes it easy to get the protection you need from the comfort of your home. No more long lines or pharmacy visits. Hers has licensed medical providers to guide you, a variety of pills based on your needs, and on-time refills. To get started, you’ll have an online consultation with a physician in your state. Past that, you’ll have access to providers to ask questions, especially if you need to change your prescription. And don’t worry, it’s the same type of quality care you’d receive in person. And you can get a prescription without a health insurance plan. (Plans start at $12/month, Hers)

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PS: These are editorially selected, but if you purchase, theSkimm may get something in return. PPS: If something’s out of stock, oops, it was there when we published. And we apologize for any shipping delays due to COVID-19. Thanks.

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