Sex Toys for Every Person and Preference

Published on: Jun 10, 2021fb-roundtwitter-roundemail-round
the best sex toysDesign: Lindsay Lange, Credit: Lelo, Maude, Dame

Talking about how you spend your time between the sheets can feel private — we get it. What happens there is your business. We’re here to say that the experience can be enhanced. So let’s talk sex toys.

To help you explore your body (and your partner’s...and your body with the help of your partner), we rounded up vibrators that can be used by anyone and everyone. We also threw in some items that’ll make the experience that more enjoyable. Lights off.

This post was originally published in June 2021 and has since been updated.

cock ring
A hands-free ring that can be used solo or for couples during sex…

It’s remote controlled and incredibly quiet. Like quieter-than-a-ticking-clock quiet. It’s got 25 different pulsating patterns and may even help extend your time in bed. Game on. ($74, hers)

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arc vibrator with a squishy head
A flexible vibrator that’s waterproof and made for exploration…

The squishy, flatter head of the vibe is designed for the vulva or clitoris. But the arc of the handle is designed to help stimulate internally. And because of the slight curve, it won’t cause you to twist your wrist in uncomfortable positions. Reviewers rave about the different speed and pattern settings, along with the softness of the durable silicone. It can be used with a partner, but is also the perfect toy for some alone-time fun. ($115, Dame)

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vibrator you can wear on your fingers
A vibrator you can wear on your fingers to intensify your touch…

If you’re looking to spice up foreplay, this one’s for you. It can sit between your middle and pointer fingers, and has a little band so it won’t slide off. You can use it on a partner or yourself. It’s extremely versatile, and can boost sensation on hips and inner thighs.’s not just for vulvas either — try it against your partner’s shaft too. ($85, Dame)

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prostate vibrator for men
A waterproof prostate massager…

It's got a tapered body with eight vibration settings, so it’s perfect for solo play or time spent between the sheets with another. It has rave reviews, with customers saying it’s a great size for first-timers. ($139, Lelo)

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two-tipped rabbit vibrator
A rabbit vibrator that offers both internal and external stimulation…

The front tip (for internal pleasure) is broad and thick. The back tip (for external play) is flexible. When inserted, the back tip rests right on the clitoris for wow-inducing orgasms. Everything is made from body-safe silicone and is silky to the touch. You can use it on your partner and vice versa — with 12 vibration settings, you’ll never get bored. ($165, Lelo)

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hands-free couples vibrator for internal and external stimulation
A vibrator that’ll help couples up their game…

One arm of the vibrator can be inserted into you, while the other arm rests outside to massage the clitoris. All that power will be transferred to your partner during sex. To make sure you’re not distracted, the vibrator is remote-controlled. You’ll both stay hands-free and focused on each other. For 20% off, use code LOVEISLOVE at checkout. ($135.20, Lelo)

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A vibrating toy with wings that’ll encircle your partner's goods…

An easy way to upgrade oral sex? Add this toy into the mix. The ridged wings can send a powerful sensation through the shaft, making anything you do that much more pleasurable. ($144.99, Babeland)

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magic wand vibrator
A Magic Wand cordless vibrator that’ll never go out of style…

It’s a crowd favorite for a reason. Its cushy silicone head is ideal for ciltoral stimulation. The device has four speeds and four vibration patterns to switch between. If it happens to run out of battery while in use, you can quickly plug it in, switch it back on, and get back to business. ($149.99, Lovehoney)

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suction vibrator
A vibrator that’s designed to produce pulsating sensations around the clitoris…

We’re talking a little bit of suction matched with deep pulsations to fire up nerve endings that’ll create a deeper orgasm. The head of the vibrator sits over the clitoris and works gradually to build sensation. It can start by creating waves that’ll feel like a soft flutter, ending with waves that’ll feel like a much deeper pulse. ($119.99, Lovehoney)

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flutter-tip vibrator
A flutter-tip vibe that’s discreet but powerful…

If you’re traveling, this vibrator will be your go-to on-the-road buddy. It has three speeds, is waterproof, and comes with a handy canvas pouch for storage. We love how efficient it is, along with its small design. ($45, Maude)

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And some other bedroom must-haves:

A pack of ultra-thin condoms that are triple-tested for safety…

It doesn’t stop there. These condoms are spermicide-free, fragrance-free, and made without harmful chemicals. They’re FDA-approved, vegan, and come in easy-to-open packaging. So you don’t have to second guess which side is up. ($12/10 pack, Maude)

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card game
A card game that is sure to steam things up...

With provocative questions and unfiltered answers, this game is a surefire way to get you both in the mood. It's a bit racy and a whole lotta fun. We suggest pairing it with a glass of your favorite vino. Good luck, and may the odds be ever in your favor. ($25, Let's F*cking Date)

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An aloe- and water-based lubricant that won’t feel sticky…

It’s hydrating and free from parabens or glycerin. You can use the lubricant with toys and condoms, and it’s latex-friendly. Once you’re done, it’ll wash away with just a bit of water. No mess left behind. ($25, Maude)

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Harness briefs that won’t cause discomfort…

When you’re in bed with your partner, you definitely don’t want any annoying chafing going on. Aka there are no straps or buckles that’ll squeeze or pinch. They feel like underwear and will come in handy more than once. ($109.95, Babeland)

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sex journal for couples
A journal to help you and your partner talk about a topic that may feel a bit taboo…

Making sure you’re both having the best sexual experience possible is important. But sometimes actually sharing intimate details about what you like and don’t like is hard. Have no fear. This journal is meant for reflection. It’s got tips on how to communicate in the bedroom, along with intention-setting exercises to help the two of you share more. Open, honest communication is the first step to better sex. So write in it together to get the convo started. ($26, Uncommon Goods)

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