New Year's·2 min read

How To Put Your Sex Life First

How to Put Your Sex Life First
Design: theSkimm
January 22, 2024

For anyone who felt like they missed out in sex-ed class, we feel you. To top it off, finding empowering ways to revive your sex life isn’t always an easy internet-search away. 

Enter: Our top recs for helping you put your sex life first. Whether that’s with a partner, a lover, or (even better) yourself, we think these three tips can help you spice things up this year.

• Add a G-spot vibrator to your collection.

Just because they couldn’t find it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t deserve some love. This vibrator from Dame has a soft bulb with a clit-stimulating ridge and an easy-reach curved handle, so you can hit all the right spots. Use it internally, externally, in the bedroom, or in the shower (because yes, it’s waterproof). Plus, it features five unique intensity levels so you can adjust as you go. Vibe on.

• Create a ~mood~ playlist.

An oldie, but a goodie. Nothing helps set the mood quite like low-fi beats, soft r&b vocals, or a sultry tempo. Take a minute to explore different publicly-accessible playlists wherever you listen to music to get some inspo. And don’t be afraid to ask your partner for their input. This can help bring you closer (or even learn something new about each other) before you get to the bedroom. 

• Check out ethical porn.

You heard us. This app shares short-and-sexy audio stories, created by women, for women. Their library includes everything from sexual wellness sessions to sleep scenes to help set the mood and ease stress. Plus, their special weekly episode drops on Spotify include a detailed description of what to expect with each story, like what type of characters to expect and the storyteller’s accent. Happy listening. 

PS: Got more goals for 2024? Get more recs, tips, and tricks that fit your lifestyle here.

Live Smarter

Sign up for the Daily Skimm email newsletter. Delivered to your inbox every morning and prepares you for your day in minutes.